Is that healthy?

Okay a friend of mine is going away for a while but it is not a normal friend you see its one of the friends that you talk like a multiple times a day and go out for coffee when you are down or not feeling like going out with people where you have to put on your civil face. Now my Question is..

Is it healthy to get attached to a person like that? That you feel down when they are not around? I am not talking about the sentimental crap and romantic attachment cause this friend is a she by the way..And now to the answer of the question that popped in all your "innocent" heads is "No, I do not swing that way if you know what I mean, not yet anyway ;D.."

I mean why is it that we get attached to a certain person? Is it that hard that we find someone who find it okay for us to be who we are? And is it cool to keep close to such a person? or You should keep your distance and get used to that fact that at some point in time this person might not be around?

I need an answer boys and girl?

Now I leave you with a song that a friend of mine introduced me to and I can not stop listening to it ever since.. You really should download it..
Here is how it goes..

"I was born one mornin' when the sun didn't shine
Picked up my shovel and I walked to the mine
I hauled Sixteen Tons of number 9 coal
And the store boss said, ""Well, bless my soul""
(Chorus:)
You haul Sixteen Tons, whadaya get
Another day older and deeper in debt
Saint Peter don't you call me cause I can't go
I owe my soul to the company store
Repeat Chorus
Born one morning it was drizzl'n rain
Fightin' and Trouble are my middle name
I was raised in a canebrake by an old mama lion
And no high-toned woman make me walk the line
Repeat Chorus
See me comin' better step aside
A lot of men didn't and a lot of men died
I got one fist of iron and the other of steel
And if the right one don't get ya, the left one will
Repeat Chorus
Born one mornin' when the sun didn't shine
Picked up my shovel and I walked to the mine
I hauled Sixteen Tons of number 9 coal
And the store boss said, ""Well, bless my soul""

Ernie Ford - 16 Tons

WTF?!

A friend of mine was feeling really down cause she asked a guy out for coffee and the ass said "No". Needless to say that my friend is really nice and considered one of the good bunch that you could actually sit down and enjoy an entertaining and witfull conversation.
Now upon her demanding a reason why, the guy gave her the worse excuse ever which simply did not add up. She came clean and said that it was fine if he told her that she is simply not his type. He insured that it was nothing of the sort and stuck to his stupid reason.

I do not get it what is wrong with the fact that a girl ask a guy out for coffee? What could this guy possibly loose if he said yes and went out for the 20 minutes cup of coffee is simply beyond me?
My explanation is either he gets intimidated by women who knows what they want and go for it? Or he simply found it weird that she did asked him out.

Now the question would you do the same if a girl out of the blue asked you out? Would you prefer to be the one who is hunting and not the hunter?

A simple question that really is confusing me..

PORN

recently I have discovered that my brother is watching porn , big deal and when I walked on him while he was watching it his face got yellow like a lemon and I smiled and left him the room for an hour he finished got out all flushed and avoiding eye contact he went out..
I never understood why porn is such a taboo subject? I am not talking about religion here don't get me wrong I am talking about socially speaking its a release for a physical need we all have. I mean what is better to actually go and bang a girl or watch a 15 or 20 minutes movie got comfortable and voila you are done, no harm done and every one is happy but why hiding it?
I have watched my share of porn on those happy times when the need kicks in and I have news flash for everyone, girls watch porn like guys but they never talk about it even to each other. Its unreasonable taboo that I do not understand why everyone is not hiding smoking is considered a wrong deed and so is smoking weed or doing drugs but I do not see anyone is hiding it except from the police or when you do not feel like sharing. Can someone please explain it to me?

Lost

I have lost my virginity, here I have said it out loud. Yes, I know it is wrong I know my relgion and up bringing taught me better but I did lose it. I do not know what to do now I know marriage is out of the question now with yours truely not being a virgin anymore and that I have signed a life time of loneliness and being on my own just for a simple and utter stupid mistake.

I did not tell my parents, nor anyone in fact that is my first dealing with the matter in a balanced way. Here I have said it. Did not imagine this would be my first post but what better way to start the conversation.

See you all around.