WTF?!

A friend of mine was feeling really down cause she asked a guy out for coffee and the ass said "No". Needless to say that my friend is really nice and considered one of the good bunch that you could actually sit down and enjoy an entertaining and witfull conversation.
Now upon her demanding a reason why, the guy gave her the worse excuse ever which simply did not add up. She came clean and said that it was fine if he told her that she is simply not his type. He insured that it was nothing of the sort and stuck to his stupid reason.

I do not get it what is wrong with the fact that a girl ask a guy out for coffee? What could this guy possibly loose if he said yes and went out for the 20 minutes cup of coffee is simply beyond me?
My explanation is either he gets intimidated by women who knows what they want and go for it? Or he simply found it weird that she did asked him out.

Now the question would you do the same if a girl out of the blue asked you out? Would you prefer to be the one who is hunting and not the hunter?

A simple question that really is confusing me..

PORN

recently I have discovered that my brother is watching porn , big deal and when I walked on him while he was watching it his face got yellow like a lemon and I smiled and left him the room for an hour he finished got out all flushed and avoiding eye contact he went out..
I never understood why porn is such a taboo subject? I am not talking about religion here don't get me wrong I am talking about socially speaking its a release for a physical need we all have. I mean what is better to actually go and bang a girl or watch a 15 or 20 minutes movie got comfortable and voila you are done, no harm done and every one is happy but why hiding it?
I have watched my share of porn on those happy times when the need kicks in and I have news flash for everyone, girls watch porn like guys but they never talk about it even to each other. Its unreasonable taboo that I do not understand why everyone is not hiding smoking is considered a wrong deed and so is smoking weed or doing drugs but I do not see anyone is hiding it except from the police or when you do not feel like sharing. Can someone please explain it to me?

Lost

I have lost my virginity, here I have said it out loud. Yes, I know it is wrong I know my relgion and up bringing taught me better but I did lose it. I do not know what to do now I know marriage is out of the question now with yours truely not being a virgin anymore and that I have signed a life time of loneliness and being on my own just for a simple and utter stupid mistake.

I did not tell my parents, nor anyone in fact that is my first dealing with the matter in a balanced way. Here I have said it. Did not imagine this would be my first post but what better way to start the conversation.

See you all around.